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Stop Texting Me About Your Dead Uncle
from Thoughtless Animal · #42
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3 minTim rants about people oversharing grief about distant relatives via text, contrasting it with his own coldness about family deaths, and recalls working in the subprime mortgage industry on Long Island where coworkers dropped dead and everyone still went out partying that night.
- 0:36Tim on acquaintances texting him about their uncle's death: stop bringing your death into my sphere.
- 1:07If both his parents died on the same day, he'd be sidelined for maybe an hour because he has shit going on.
- 1:43He likes his own parents, but won't tolerate hearing about other people's second cousins, godmothers, or old school friends.
- 2:08Stop grief window shopping to find something to project your own failure and inability to get things done onto.
- 2:24Tim's process for grief: they're dead, move on. Do something nice for someone in their family or yourself.
- 2:46Working in the mortgage industry on Long Island, three people in his office dropped dead from drugs.
- 3:09At the funerals, they did the right thing—had a good laugh and cry, then went out and got wasted to appreciate life.
- 3:27Every minute you live life to the fullest, and that doesn't involve texting him about an uncle he's never met.