rant · moment 18 of 22
The Sex-Addict Friend Who Wants a Kid
from Seeking Arrangements (with Wendi Starling) · #47
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2 minTim describes a promiscuous, drug-using friend who wants to be a father despite his lifestyle, and the group debates whether he should have kids, suggesting he volunteer as a Big Brother instead.
- 55:48Wealthy people pay women for affection while struggling with sex and drug addiction, mistaking the chemical high for genuine connection.
- 56:12Many people have kids for the same addictive reason—wanting something to love them because they feel so alone.
- 56:22The friend says he wouldn't feel like he missed out without marriage, but would regret never being a dad—a selfish framing of parenthood.
- 56:39Tim points out that a guy who pays for women and does drugs constantly might not be the best candidate for raising a child.
- 57:05The friend is 27, has attended sex addict meetings, and has destroyed relationships because he can't commit.
- 57:19Tim's advice: if you're that type of guy, be that guy, but don't bring a kid into it.
- 57:38Tim jokes about being a Big Brother himself, describing a mentorship that involves hiding knives and teaching kids not to be rats.