rant · moment 13 of 24
Old-School Bullying vs. Modern Passive Torment
from Finger Blow Jobs · #13
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2 minTim argues that kids used to settle things by fighting and getting it over with, whereas now bullying persists as ongoing passive-aggressive torment since fighting isn't allowed, plus a riff on people filtering criticism through their insecurities.
- 25:47Tim argues that removing physical fighting from bullying doesn't solve the problem—it just transforms it into constant low-level psychological torment that never gets resolved.
- 26:09Kids in the 1950s and 60s would just fight it out and move on, whereas modern bullying drags on for years without reaching a natural endpoint.
- 26:30Tim describes how people funnel all negative comments through a single identity filter—if you're fat, you attribute every insult to your weight; if you're gay, you attribute everything to sexuality.
- 26:54The problem with identity filters is that any comeback feels like you're attacking someone's core identity rather than just trading insults.
- 27:17Tim's generation was the last to laugh at inappropriate and subversive material while knowing it was actually wrong.
- 27:29The crucial distinction is that knowing something isn't right—having a moral compass—doesn't mean you can't find it funny.