rant · moment 16 of 16
The Thanksgiving Eve Feeling and Knowing When to Leave
from 163 - How To Be Popular · #163
5 min
Tim describes the eventual realization — often crystallizing on a Thanksgiving Eve visit home — that you've outgrown a friend group, and argues that clinging to a dead social scene out of comfort is how people become permanent losers.
- Tim describes the "Thanksgiving Eve feeling" — realizing on your return home that something fundamental has shifted and you no longer belong where you once did.
- The reality is like a time warp: everything looks the same but nothing has an echo, the food tastes weird — time itself has moved things.
- When you realize you don't belong anymore, it's time to move on and find a new group of people, a process that repeats until you find those you truly love.
- People who want to make anything happen won't keep the same four or five friends their entire life — they'll have this experience over and over.
- If you ignore that feeling of being done, if you stuff it down and stay, you become a loser — that's how you become a failure.
- Kelly Cutrone's rule: if you're the coolest person at the party, it's time to leave — better to be the loser at a table with people doing more.
- Tim quotes mythology about those who ignore the call to leave: they become like spirits wandering the earth, unable to get into heaven or hell, awaiting the ferryman.
- If you answer that call and always feel ready to conquer the next thing, you might end up as successful as Donald Trump.
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