Porn, Instagram Models, and Holding Out for a Perfect Person

• 55:48It's easier to be distracted nowadays; fucking used to be the goal, now it's cooler to think about than do it.
• 56:14Study shows 23% of people aged 18-29 reported no sex in the past year, doubling from 2008 to 2018.
• 56:41Online culture and internet communities are replacing in-person social interaction and sexuality.
• 57:08Podcasts function as friendship simulators—you get a friend whenever you want, paused or rewound, with no risk of being exposed as a fraud or idiot.
• 57:42He couldn't do emotionless sex; even casual Tinder hookups felt gross because he'd already dislike the girl before finishing.
• 58:11Internet porn was everywhere as a kid—watching bukkake scenes at eleven ruins any chance of a normal sexual life.
• 58:26Tim and a friend stole a Chasey Lane VHS in sixth or seventh grade and would watch it occasionally.
• 58:56Instagram models and perfect images everywhere make people hold out for an idealized person instead of dating actual humans.
• 59:38In the gay world, emotionless sex is more normalized and all kinds of arrangements are acceptable.
• 1:00:29Tim realized his brain was wired by porn to obsess over physical features—big tits, hair, lips—while ignoring the cute girl in the corner.
• 1:01:04He started jerking off to music videos as a kid, couldn't separate sexuality from manufactured images.

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