rant · moment 3 of 20
Old Family Parties, Coke in the Yard, and Coming Out
from Carney Code · #123
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4 minTim recounts the drinking, drug use, and chaos at his family's old holiday parties versus his quiet current Thanksgiving, then riffs on his lack of desire for big family involvement and his experience coming out as gay to relatives.
- 6:30Tim describes his grandfather's massive Thanksgiving gatherings on Long Island with about 50 people in a huge yard.
- 7:11His nanny would start cooking Wednesday morning, preparing two 22-pound turkeys, stuffing, mashed potatoes, and later prime rib for Christmas and glazed ham for Easter.
- 7:54The parties featured drinking, music, his dad's guitar, singing, fist fights, pool games, and people doing coke in the yard.
- 8:40Tim clarifies the coke use was his dad's brothers and friends when he was a kid, not him and his siblings at holiday parties.
- 9:04Getting caught drinking or smoking weed at parties depended on who caught you—a cool aunt might say nothing, while someone trying to ruin everything would tell.
- 9:39Now Thanksgiving is just him, his schizophrenic mother, his eccentric Aunt Donna, and Uncle Steve—four people eating turkey that always sucks no matter who makes it.
- 10:04Uncle Steve asked about Tim and his roommate living together in Queens, confusing the relationship.