Interview · moment 17 of 20
Jessa's Realization Before Near-Death: Nothing Outside You Can Affect You
from Alien School (with Jessa Reed) · #89
Audio-only archive episode — no video to seek.
4 minGuest
Jessa explains the core realization from her abuse and addiction history that nothing external can affect her without her consent, and how reality reflects what you pay attention to.
- 1:12:33Guest describes childhood abuse and molestation, the people she told let her down, and growing up in a drug house.
- 1:13:04Tim realizes he can apply his trauma and pain through the lens of choice and agency, noting others who've been through worse maintain better outlooks.
- 1:13:26His basic philosophy: when something happens he dislikes, he asks whether he can change it, then applies acceptance to what he cannot.
- 1:13:41Guest quotes from a book: reality is an audiovisual demonstration of where your attention is, and the universe provides more of what you're paying attention to.
- 1:14:05If all you talk about is things you don't like, you experience more of that—reality is perception-based and your lens determines what you see.
- 1:14:38People get very defensive when told they have agency over their thoughts and the way they live.
- 1:14:56Guest has to produce a resume of her own trauma just to suggest personal agency, and people feel attacked by the concept.
- 1:15:14She's met people who went through absolutely horrific things, indescribable trauma, yet rebuilt their lives and manifested positive change through internal focus.
- 1:15:53Being mad and being hurt are highly addictive, and on a subconscious level you can manifest situations to get the same negative interactions.
- 1:16:05Tim notes you attract things that resonate on the same frequency, whether or not it's literal woo.