Interview · moment 11 of 22
Dating in Comedy as a Gay Man and Sparse Gay Material
from Heroism is a Solitary Thing · #85
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4 minGuest
Connor talks about dating a successful comedian, the scarcity of gay comics to date, and why he keeps his gay material minimal, preferring to talk about diners and money instead of sex.
- 26:39Few gay people doing comedy means limited dating pool within the industry for gay comics.
- 27:07Gay comics in the industry have to either succeed or leave—there's no other path forward.
- 27:29He has only two jokes about being gay—one on his Comedy Central special, one on Netflix.
- 27:48Can't leave sexuality out entirely without omitting a whole dimension of yourself.
- 28:02Tim finds diners, real estate, and money more interesting subjects than sex or relationships.
- 28:32Coming out later in life means he doesn't have a million relationship experiences to draw from.
- 28:58He's concentrated more on his career than relationships and isn't the guy to give relationship advice.
- 29:18Part of him envies people who fall in and out of love constantly; they envy his focus on one thing.
- 29:37His gay jokes aren't "I'm gay"—they're actual jokes that involve his sexuality, like one about a guy who's never heard of Bretton Woods.