rant · moment 12 of 21
Fans Wanting Lunch and Parasocial Boundaries
from 2017, A Year Of Love And Peace · #76
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3 minTim and Ray joke about fans messaging them asking to get lunch, riffing on how strange and presumptuous that is, and reflect on how their own phone calls and friendship inform the show without needing extra 'realness' from meeting in person.
- 31:34Tim wrote a script about his boss and his son and gave it to Ron, calling it an opportunity for the big screen.
- 31:59The strategy of buttering someone up before pitching a script versus leading with the ask—Tim describes how his friend Ray opened with 'Will you be in my movie?' and got an immediate hostile reaction.
- 32:39Meeting famous people who are above your level is different from meeting colleagues; there's a distinction between being a fan and pursuing a professional relationship.
- 33:15Tim gets messages from fans asking to get lunch with him, which he explains won't work because listeners already get an hour with him every week on the show.
- 33:38Tim argues he's worse in person at lunch than on the podcast, so there's nothing to gain from a meet-up that people aren't already getting.
- 34:05Tim refuses to stop calling and talking to friends off-air just to make the show better, pushing back on the idea that he should only interact with people on-mic.