Interview · moment 7 of 19
Getting Sober and the Roots of Violence
from Bully Queen (With Robert Kelly) · #22
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5 minGuest
Bobby discusses getting sober at 15, leaving his family, and traces his history of violence back to a violent stepfather, describing how fear and rage became learned survival tools, including punching a suitcase and screaming into a wall.
- 12:42Tim recounts arriving at an Indian woman's apartment after waiting three hours because Shannon couldn't push a button quickly enough.
- 13:16Conversation shifts to his spiritual awakening and decision to stop using drugs and alcohol.
- 13:44Tim lists what he was done with: getting arrested, people pleasing, leaving his family—he quit at 15.
- 14:03Something spiritual entered him and gave him the ability to ask for help.
- 14:24Violence stemmed from fear and hurt feelings, not the drugs themselves—alcohol just removed the chains on those impulses.
- 15:17Tim learned from a violent stepfather that punching things and letting rage build would keep him away.
- 16:02Building rage and releasing it violently made people stop fucking with him, though he insists that's not actually who he is.
- 16:27Tim demonstrates his violent persona from those years with an intense outburst, then jokes about being convincing.
- 16:46Watching fights on Facebook—he claims he watches them because he hates violence and wants to be disgusted by it.
- 17:21In any fight he's been in, winning made him feel worse than losing because he doesn't want to hurt people.