Interview · moment 8 of 19
Not Hitting His Kid and Marriage Communication
from Bully Queen (With Robert Kelly) · #22
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5 minGuest
Bobby talks about breaking the cycle of violence with his own son, watching Facebook fight videos despite hating violence, and working through communication issues with his wife via therapy instead of yelling.
- 17:33Tim doesn't hit his kid, breaking the cycle of violence his stepfather modeled.
- 18:02At a retreat with Don Foth, Tim punched a suitcase nine times and screamed at the wall, but won't let his son see that rage.
- 18:32Tim refuses to call his wife names or let her control his emotions through manipulation.
- 19:01The goal in life is eliminating emotional manipulation, though defense mechanisms learned in childhood can't be unlearned.
- 19:27Therapy for over ten years hasn't stopped Tim from arguing with himself in the car about people who don't exist.
- 19:48Comics fear losing anger because they think they'll lose their funny, but Tim got funnier the moment he became vulnerable on stage.
- 20:26When Tim was young and good-looking, he was just trying to be funny and get pussy; now things get very serious because he has something to lose.
- 20:58Tim is connected to his kid, his wife, his house, and the life he built, which creates conflict about how often to go to the city.
- 21:39Yelling at his wife to stop talking won't work; the only way is approaching her with vulnerability and saying he loves her but needs her to stop.
- 22:34Nobody wants to get rejected, but rejection is part of life and you have to be willing to risk it.